Hold My Coffee, I’m Leaping: Breaking Through Your Upper Limits with Godfidence

When you’ve prayed for breakthrough but freeze when it finally shows up.

Let’s talk about that weird moment when life starts going well... and suddenly, you panic.

You know what I mean.
Your dream is taking shape.
People are cheering you on.
Doors are flying open.

And yet—something inside you tightens.
You second-guess.
You stall.
You self-sabotage.

Welcome to the Upper Limit Problem—or as I like to call it, the sabotage cycle.

What’s the Upper Limit Problem?

Psychologist Gay Hendricks coined the phrase, but honestly?
It’s biblical.

The Upper Limit Problem is when we unconsciously cap our own joy, success, or freedom because of deeply rooted beliefs that whisper:

“This is too good.”
“You’re not worthy.”
“You’ll mess this up.”
“You’ve gone too far.”

It shows up in sneaky ways:

• Picking a fight when things feel too peaceful

• Procrastinating right before a big opportunity

• Downplaying your gifts to “stay humble”

Sound familiar? It’s not coincidence. It’s not your personality. It’s fear dressed up as control.

Real Talk: Jasmine’s Story

Let me tell you about Jasmine.

A ministry leader. Fierce and faithful.
She got invited to speak at a women’s conference—a literal dream come true.

But the week before?
Panic. Anxiety. Self-doubt.
She nearly canceled.

“Maybe I misheard God,” she told me.
But that wasn’t God.
That was fear pulling her back into her comfort zone.

My Upper Limit Moment

I’ve lived this too.
When things started aligning in my life—open doors, a growing podcast, women being impacted—I didn’t celebrate.

I shrunk.

Over-edited every episode. Rewrote every post. Told myself,

“This must be too much. I’m not ready.”

But during quiet time, God whispered:
“You prayed for this. Why are you afraid of it now?”

Cue the tears.

It hit me: I wasn’t afraid of failing.
I was afraid of being seen… and still not enough.

4 Common Limiting Beliefs (And the Truth That Breaks Them)

These lies are sneaky, but the Word of God dismantles every single one:

1. “I’m Fundamentally Flawed”

Lie: If they knew the real me, they’d walk away.
Truth: Romans 8:1 – “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”
You’re not flawed—you’re forgiven.

2. “If I Succeed, I’m Being Disloyal”

Lie: Thriving dishonors my past or my people.
Truth: Isaiah 43:19 – “See, I am doing a new thing…”
Your growth doesn’t dishonor—it testifies.

3. “I’m a Burden”

Lie: I shouldn’t need anything.
Truth: Matthew 11:28 – “Come to Me, all who are weary…”
You’re not a burden. You’re beloved.

4. “I Must Not Outshine Others”

Lie: Playing small makes everyone more comfortable.
Truth: Matthew 5:14 – “You are the light of the world.”
Your light was never meant to be dimmed.

Signs You Might Be Self-Sabotaging

Be honest:

• Do you feel guilty for resting?

• Do you decline help you clearly need?

• Do you downplay your success so no one feels “less than”?

That’s not humility, friend.
That’s fear masking as self-control.

Courage doesn’t mean you aren’t afraid.
It means you trust God more than your fear.

4 Steps to Break Through with God

Let’s not just read—let’s move:

1. Name the Lie.

Bring it to light. Say it out loud.

“I believe I’m not enough.”

2. Find the Root.

Ask: Where did this belief start? Is it even mine to carry?

3. Replace It With Truth.

Sword of the Spirit, baby.

“I am chosen. I am equipped. I am loved.” (1 Peter 2:9)

4. Take a Tiny Brave Step.

Not a huge leap. Just a holy one.

Say yes. Post the thing. Apply for the role. Text the mentor.

Final Encouragement: The Leap is Sacred

Your capacity for joy is not a threat—it’s a testimony.
Your obedience isn’t selfish—it’s sacred.
Your calling doesn’t compete with others—it completes the Body of Christ.

God isn’t withholding.
He’s waiting—for you to believe you’re ready.

So take the leap, even if:

• Your knees shake

• Your voice cracks

• Your hands are gripping a lukewarm coffee

Because sometimes… freedom is on the other side of “do it scared.”

Let’s leap together, friend.
Eyes on Jesus.
Heart wide open.
And if you need someone to hold your coffee—I’ve got you.